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It was a small, gray thing called a laptop. The first game I ever played on it was The Lion King. For a kid like me, this was revelatory<\/em>. Can such a device really exist? That was the day my love for technology began to grow. I was curious to learn more about how computers worked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One day when my dad was away at work, I decided to play on the laptop. I don\u2019t remember why, but I couldn\u2019t seem to make it work. So I took it upon myself to fix it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I spent some time digging into the operating system and the software installed, but I still couldn\u2019t find the issue. After a few hours, I thought, if this isn\u2019t a software problem, I need to take it apart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And so, my 12-year-old self dismantled a laptop without knowing how a computer worked. I had a lot of fun disassembling the laptop. The joy of seeing all the different parts that made the laptop work was amazing. But then when came time to put it all back together\u2026 I was lost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My Dad was shocked when he found me with the pieces all spread out on the floor. He was surprised, but he didn\u2019t yell or show his anger. He counted my curiosity as a learning experience. He didn\u2019t diminish my wonder; he celebrated it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He empowered me to keep exploring.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

To this day, I\u2019m grateful for his empowering response. As a result of my dad\u2019s kindness, I was inspired to delve deeper, not just into the technological world but it continued into the internal architecture of humanity \u2013 who we are at our deepest core.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As my curiosity for technology increased, so did my fascination with purpose and identity, and spirituality. Questions about how our mind works, what it looks like to live wholeheartedly, what it means to be alive, and step into the glory of being human kept me up all night.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is so much technological innovation happening all around us but I was also enamored by our own human evolution within our personhood. And what I found out is that we aren\u2019t that fragile. As a species, we are but a seedling waiting to bloom. So each moment must become about learning what it is to step into a deeper way of being.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Especially within the church.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Need for Solid Food<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve been in the church world my entire life and I\u2019ve seen the ups and downs of Christianity. Yet there is one thing I\u2019ve realized about the church: the message she carries has lost its substance. Deep in the scriptures are beautiful, deep, and magnificent truths laid hidden. Meals that are ready to be tasted, yet much of what we feed on is nothing more than regurgitated meals that have been passed down in the last 500 years or so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While some are brave enough to dig deeper, to ask the harder question about who we are and what it means to be a follower of Jesus, the majority of Christendom has left childlike curiosity and traded the power of the Spirit in our inner being<\/a> for religion void of true transformation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

All I can hear are the words of Paul saying, \u201cI gave you milk, not solid food, for you were not ready for it.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must return to our childlike impulse to be curious and feast on something that is of substance.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A Modern Day Exodus<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Jesus said, \u201cBlessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven,\u201d what if part of the conversation about deconstruction is that some have realized much of what is being fed to them now is nothing more than a fast-food meal. The church as a whole is actually malnourished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Christians are leaving the church, yet we may be witnessing a rediscovery of the Kingdom all over again. To Jesus, the kingdom belongs to those who are poor in spirit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I see it, deconstruction is the modern version of the exodus where the church has become a type of Egypt. Religious obligation and performance-driven theology became the brick and mortar that gave people their value and its church leader is its taskmasters. The true meaning and authentic expression of identity were lost in the sea of productivity and church empire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cChurchianity\u201d forfeited the beauty of spirituality and has dulled the taste of authentic expression of faith to the point that people are rejecting Jesus and the church completely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From my observation, most of what is happening now is the rejection of one\u2019s history and the faith tradition they grew up with that almost has this spirit of bitterness fueling its motivation. It\u2019s a reaction to their pain, and their wounding. This is where deconstruction becomes destructive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a collective movement of people deconstructing their faith from a place of pain but that\u2019s all they can do. They are leaving an abusive culture the church has perpetuated for years but they have nowhere to go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s an exodus without a promised land.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

An exodus without a promise gets you stuck. Like a 12-year-old taking a computer apart, deconstruction without a blueprint invites chaos. Your journey becomes focused on what happened to you as opposed to returning to identity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the Israelites found themselves captive for over 400 years, slavery was no longer their condition; it became their identity. So when they were redeemed from their captors, they had to go through their own deconstruction. They had to go through their own journey of reclaiming their identity before they could even step into their promised land.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

God brought their exodus but it was the hope of freedom that introduced a new center of gravity they can orbit around. Their promised land became a tangible anchor that they can hold on to at the individual level all the way to the collective level.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two Sides of the Same Coin<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I believe deconstruction is actually a necessary part of one\u2019s spiritual journey. As kids, naturally, we start to ask \u201cwhy\u201d questions. I\u2019m sure, every parent would agree.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why this..
Why that..
How does this work\u2026
Where do babies come from\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first time I set my eyes on a computer was a revelation to me and my \u201cwhy\u201d took me to disassemble it. With that, I realized something.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Revelation and deconstruction are two sides of the same coin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If revelation is to reveal something, then deconstruction unravels it. Revelation shows you what\u2019s possible, while deconstruction seeks to understand what revelation unveils.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And curiosity is what allows us to live in the tension of both. Curiosity allows us to honor one side without disregarding the other. Living in the tension of both gives us wisdom to freely explore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re not just in revelation doing something you don\u2019t understand, but you\u2019re also deconstructing it and seeing why it works and most importantly why it matters.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because I was genuinely curious about why I believe what I believe, why I act the way I act, and why am I here at this particular place at this particular time; that spilled over to my own journey with Christianity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I wanted to go deeper into the scriptures, the context, the history, the people.
I wanted to know who Jesus is and what makes Him so compelling.
I wanted to embark on a quest to discover what it truly is to become fully alive.
I wanted to step into what it means to be fully human.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

All of it is ultimately the question of identity and purpose.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

With all the questions I\u2019ve asked and all the journey of discovery I\u2019ve been in, the question about deconstruction is fundamentally the question about our identity and purpose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s the question that asks, \u201cWho am I at the core and why am I here\u2026without the filters, without the indoctrination, without the dogma\u2026.just pure and undiluted me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the question about deconstruction is about purpose and identity, I\u2019ve learned the best place to find that answer is found in our history, not the rejection of it. It isn\u2019t about forgetting what happened to us but about embracing it and letting it shape who we are being now on the road to a better way of being.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s why after the exodus, there was an emphasis to not forget but to remember. To build memorial stones of what happened so when you look back in the rearview mirror of your life, you can celebrate your redemption.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But you have to have hope. You have to have a promise. You have to have something that you are holding on to other than your pain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There has to be something bigger than who you are now that you can anchor yourself to. Something\u2026or Someone that can be a mirror to your becoming.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Redemptive Deconstruction Process<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re in the middle of deconstruction, I want to let you know that I see you. I recognize the pain you\u2019ve experienced and the hunger for solid food. Don\u2019t let this moment pass you by but use it to propel you forward. And instead of reacting to pain, lean in and find a promise. Let hope push you to redeem your history and reclaim your identity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So how do you deconstruct to reclaim identity rather than reject your history? Below is the process of what worked for me. I call it The Redemptive Deconstruction Process. If you have any questions about it or just need someone to process with, feel free to connect with me<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Self-awareness<\/strong>. Know who you are, how you are wired. What are your fears and your triggers? Deconstruction must start with your personhood before it can continue with our belief system. It\u2019s important to differentiate identity from personality. The former is innate; the latter is formed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Own your story.<\/strong> The past, the hurt, the trauma, the process \u2013 your pain will color the way you see. That\u2019s why self-awareness is the foundation. Pain can masquerade as the voice of your identity. You have to be able to differentiate who you are versus what you have come to believe. Only then can you discover who you are and who you are becoming. Pain has a voice but so does your identity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Honor where you come from.<\/strong> You are where you are today because of the journey it took to get you here. The opposite of honor is shame. Shame disconnects you from your story and makes your past an enemy. Owning your history is where the redemption of your past and the restoration of your glory begins.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Give grace to yourself so you can extend it to those around you.<\/strong> Forgiveness towards yourself and to those who might have led you astray is key. Leaders only lead from what they think they know. They have their own sets of lenses they are working from. It\u2019s hard to give them the benefit of the doubt, but it\u2019s essential to your healing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Set healthy boundaries.<\/strong> In reality, the reason we go through a deconstruction phase in all areas of life is when we\u2019ve realized we\u2019ve been in a codependent relationship. This is especially true with the church, with our leaders, and so-called \u201cspiritual fathers.\u201d Because we didn\u2019t know how to release people into their own journey of faith, we have unconsciously cultivated a codependent relationship with our members. We didn\u2019t trust that they could, so we spoon-fed people. We would rather protect our doctrine than empower people into self-discovery. Another reason for this co-dependent relationship is because that is how we think God wants our relationship with Him. This is your faith journey and no one can live your spiritual life for you. So you have to own it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. There is permission to explore. <\/strong>When Paul said, \u201call things are yours,\u201d to the Corinthians it was in the context of following leaders. \u201cSo don\u2019t boast about following a particular human leader. For everything belongs to you\u2014 whether Paul or Apollos or Peter, or the world, or life and death, or the present and the future. Everything belongs to you, and you belong to Christ, and Christ belongs to God.\u201d That speaks of permission. You have way more permission than what you\u2019ve been told. But 7 chapters later he says, \u201cEverything is permissible but not everything is beneficial.\u201d With permission comes responsibility. He empowers them but then invites them to take responsibility for what they do. You have permission to explore but recognize what is actually beneficial and encourages your transformation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Study and Learn.<\/strong> Once you have all the above then continue learning and dissecting and deconstructing your belief systems and faith traditions. Go back to the very beginning of why you believed in the first place. What drew you? What is driving you out? What are your questions? Learn why the scriptures were written, who it was written to, what the context is. Learn the different theological filters that might have been taught to you. Because you might just find how beautiful the scripture really is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Find a blueprint<\/strong>. There is a center in everything. Find something or someone to anchor yourself to or else you will always feel like you\u2019re lost. For me, Jesus is the one. After my own deconstruction, I found that there is no one else I would rather anchor myself to than his teaching and his life and the truth he came to embody. I see him as the blueprint of humanity we are all trying to aspire to. He is my self-actualization. When Paul said he\u2019s our mirror, it\u2019s an invitation for our being to be actualized into his image. He is my becoming. The question you have to answer for yourself is this: who are you becoming? That question will determine your anchor and center and the one who sits in the throne room of your heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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One day when my dad was away at work, I decided to play on the laptop. I don\u2019t remember why, but I couldn\u2019t seem to make it work. So I took it upon myself to fix it.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"One day when my dad was away at work, I decided to play on the laptop. I don\u2019t remember why, but I couldn\u2019t seem to make it work. So I took it upon myself to fix it."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

I spent some time digging into the operating system and the software installed, but I still couldn't find the issue. After a few hours, I thought, if this isn\u2019t a software problem, I need to take it apart.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"I spent some time digging into the operating system and the software installed, but I still couldn't find the issue. After a few hours, I thought, if this isn\u2019t a software problem, I need to take it apart."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

And so, my 12-year-old self dismantled a laptop without knowing how a computer worked. I had a lot of fun disassembling the laptop. The joy of seeing all the different parts that made the laptop work was amazing. But then when came time to put it all back together\u2026 I was lost.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"And so, my 12-year-old self dismantled a laptop without knowing how a computer worked. I had a lot of fun disassembling the laptop. The joy of seeing all the different parts that made the laptop work was amazing. But then when came time to put it all back together\u2026 I was lost."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

My Dad was shocked when he found me with the pieces all spread out on the floor. He was surprised, but he didn\u2019t yell or show his anger. He counted my curiosity as a learning experience. He didn\u2019t diminish my wonder; he celebrated it.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"My Dad was shocked when he found me with the pieces all spread out on the floor. He was surprised, but he didn\u2019t yell or show his anger. He counted my curiosity as a learning experience. He didn\u2019t diminish my wonder; he celebrated it."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

He empowered me to keep exploring.<\/strong><\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"He empowered me to keep exploring.<\/strong>"}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

To this day, I\u2019m grateful for his empowering response. As a result of my dad\u2019s kindness, I was inspired to delve deeper, not just into the technological world but it continued into the internal architecture of humanity \u2013 who we are at our deepest core.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"To this day, I\u2019m grateful for his empowering response. As a result of my dad\u2019s kindness, I was inspired to delve deeper, not just into the technological world but it continued into the internal architecture of humanity \u2013 who we are at our deepest core."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

As my curiosity for technology increased, so did my fascination with purpose and identity, and spirituality. Questions about how our mind works, what it looks like to live wholeheartedly, what it means to be alive, and step into the glory of being human kept me up all night.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"As my curiosity for technology increased, so did my fascination with purpose and identity, and spirituality. Questions about how our mind works, what it looks like to live wholeheartedly, what it means to be alive, and step into the glory of being human kept me up all night."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

There is so much technological innovation happening all around us but I was also enamored by our own human evolution within our personhood. And what I found out is that we aren\u2019t that fragile. As a species, we are but a seedling waiting to bloom. So each moment must become about learning what it is to step into a deeper way of being.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"There is so much technological innovation happening all around us but I was also enamored by our own human evolution within our personhood. And what I found out is that we aren\u2019t that fragile. As a species, we are but a seedling waiting to bloom. So each moment must become about learning what it is to step into a deeper way of being."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

Especially within the church.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"Especially within the church."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/heading","render":"

The Need for Solid Food<\/strong><\/h2>","content":"The Need for Solid Food","data":[],"style":{"align":"left","parent_style":{},"header":"h2","fontSize":"27px"}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

I\u2019ve been in the church world my entire life and I\u2019ve seen the ups and downs of Christianity. Yet there is one thing I\u2019ve realized about the church: the message she carries has lost its substance. Deep in the scriptures are beautiful, deep, and magnificent truths laid hidden. Meals that are ready to be tasted, yet much of what we feed on is nothing more than regurgitated meals that have been passed down in the last 500 years or so.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"I\u2019ve been in the church world my entire life and I\u2019ve seen the ups and downs of Christianity. Yet there is one thing I\u2019ve realized about the church: the message she carries has lost its substance. Deep in the scriptures are beautiful, deep, and magnificent truths laid hidden. Meals that are ready to be tasted, yet much of what we feed on is nothing more than regurgitated meals that have been passed down in the last 500 years or so."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

While some are brave enough to dig deeper, to ask the harder question about who we are and what it means to be a follower of Jesus, the majority of Christendom has left childlike curiosity and traded the power of the Spirit in our inner being<\/a> for religion void of true transformation.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"While some are brave enough to dig deeper, to ask the harder question about who we are and what it means to be a follower of Jesus, the majority of Christendom has left childlike curiosity and traded the power of the Spirit in our inner being<\/a> for religion void of true transformation."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

All I can hear are the words of Paul saying, \u201cI gave you milk, not solid food, for you were not ready for it.\u201d<\/em><\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"All I can hear are the words of Paul saying, \u201cI gave you milk, not solid food, for you were not ready for it.\u201d<\/em>"}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/quote","render":"

We must return to our childlike impulse to be curious and feast on something that is of substance.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>","content":"We must return to our childlike impulse to be curious and feast on something that is of substance.","quote_blocks":[],"data":{"fontSize":"normal"},"style":{"layout":"default","parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/heading","render":"

A Modern Day Exodus<\/strong><\/h2>","content":"A Modern Day Exodus","data":[],"style":{"align":"left","parent_style":{},"header":"h2","fontSize":"27px"}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

Jesus said, \u201cBlessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven,\u201d what if part of the conversation about deconstruction is that some have realized much of what is being fed to them now is nothing more than a fast-food meal. The church as a whole is actually malnourished.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"Jesus said, \u201cBlessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven,\u201d what if part of the conversation about deconstruction is that some have realized much of what is being fed to them now is nothing more than a fast-food meal. The church as a whole is actually malnourished."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

Christians are leaving the church, yet we may be witnessing a rediscovery of the Kingdom all over again. To Jesus, the kingdom belongs to those who are poor in spirit.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"Christians are leaving the church, yet we may be witnessing a rediscovery of the Kingdom all over again. To Jesus, the kingdom belongs to those who are poor in spirit."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

As I see it, deconstruction is the modern version of the exodus where the church has become a type of Egypt. Religious obligation and performance-driven theology became the brick and mortar that gave people their value and its church leader is its taskmasters. The true meaning and authentic expression of identity were lost in the sea of productivity and church empire.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"As I see it, deconstruction is the modern version of the exodus where the church has become a type of Egypt. Religious obligation and performance-driven theology became the brick and mortar that gave people their value and its church leader is its taskmasters. The true meaning and authentic expression of identity were lost in the sea of productivity and church empire."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

\u201cChurchianity\u201d forfeited the beauty of spirituality and has dulled the taste of authentic expression of faith to the point that people are rejecting Jesus and the church completely.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"\u201cChurchianity\u201d forfeited the beauty of spirituality and has dulled the taste of authentic expression of faith to the point that people are rejecting Jesus and the church completely."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

From my observation, most of what is happening now is the rejection of one\u2019s history and the faith tradition they grew up with that almost has this spirit of bitterness fueling its motivation. It\u2019s a reaction to their pain, and their wounding. This is where deconstruction becomes destructive.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"From my observation, most of what is happening now is the rejection of one\u2019s history and the faith tradition they grew up with that almost has this spirit of bitterness fueling its motivation. It\u2019s a reaction to their pain, and their wounding. This is where deconstruction becomes destructive."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

There is a collective movement of people deconstructing their faith from a place of pain but that\u2019s all they can do. They are leaving an abusive culture the church has perpetuated for years but they have nowhere to go.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"There is a collective movement of people deconstructing their faith from a place of pain but that\u2019s all they can do. They are leaving an abusive culture the church has perpetuated for years but they have nowhere to go."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

It\u2019s an exodus without a promised land.<\/strong><\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"It\u2019s an exodus without a promised land.<\/strong>"}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

An exodus without a promise gets you stuck. Like a 12-year-old taking a computer apart, deconstruction without a blueprint invites chaos. Your journey becomes focused on what happened to you as opposed to returning to identity.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"An exodus without a promise gets you stuck. Like a 12-year-old taking a computer apart, deconstruction without a blueprint invites chaos. Your journey becomes focused on what happened to you as opposed to returning to identity."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

When the Israelites found themselves captive for over 400 years, slavery was no longer their condition; it became their identity. So when they were redeemed from their captors, they had to go through their own deconstruction. They had to go through their own journey of reclaiming their identity before they could even step into their promised land.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"When the Israelites found themselves captive for over 400 years, slavery was no longer their condition; it became their identity. So when they were redeemed from their captors, they had to go through their own deconstruction. They had to go through their own journey of reclaiming their identity before they could even step into their promised land."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

God brought their exodus but it was the hope of freedom that introduced a new center of gravity they can orbit around. Their promised land became a tangible anchor that they can hold on to at the individual level all the way to the collective level.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"God brought their exodus but it was the hope of freedom that introduced a new center of gravity they can orbit around. Their promised land became a tangible anchor that they can hold on to at the individual level all the way to the collective level."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/heading","render":"

Two Sides of the Same Coin<\/strong><\/h2>","content":"Two Sides of the Same Coin","data":[],"style":{"align":"left","parent_style":{},"header":"h2","fontSize":"27px"}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

I believe deconstruction is actually a necessary part of one\u2019s spiritual journey. As kids, naturally, we start to ask \u201cwhy\u201d questions. I\u2019m sure, every parent would agree.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"I believe deconstruction is actually a necessary part of one\u2019s spiritual journey. As kids, naturally, we start to ask \u201cwhy\u201d questions. I\u2019m sure, every parent would agree."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

Why this..
Why that..
How does this work...
Where do babies come from...<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"Why this..
Why that..
How does this work...
Where do babies come from..."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

The first time I set my eyes on a computer was a revelation to me and my \u201cwhy\u201d took me to disassemble it. With that, I realized something.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"The first time I set my eyes on a computer was a revelation to me and my \u201cwhy\u201d took me to disassemble it. With that, I realized something."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

Revelation and deconstruction are two sides of the same coin.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"Revelation and deconstruction are two sides of the same coin."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

If revelation is to reveal something, then deconstruction unravels it. Revelation shows you what\u2019s possible, while deconstruction seeks to understand what revelation unveils.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"If revelation is to reveal something, then deconstruction unravels it. Revelation shows you what\u2019s possible, while deconstruction seeks to understand what revelation unveils."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

And curiosity is what allows us to live in the tension of both. Curiosity allows us to honor one side without disregarding the other. Living in the tension of both gives us wisdom to freely explore.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"And curiosity is what allows us to live in the tension of both. Curiosity allows us to honor one side without disregarding the other. Living in the tension of both gives us wisdom to freely explore."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

You\u2019re not just in revelation doing something you don\u2019t understand, but you\u2019re also deconstructing it and seeing why it works and most importantly why it matters.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"You\u2019re not just in revelation doing something you don\u2019t understand, but you\u2019re also deconstructing it and seeing why it works and most importantly why it matters."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

Because I was genuinely curious about why I believe what I believe, why I act the way I act, and why am I here at this particular place at this particular time; that spilled over to my own journey with Christianity.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"Because I was genuinely curious about why I believe what I believe, why I act the way I act, and why am I here at this particular place at this particular time; that spilled over to my own journey with Christianity."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

I wanted to go deeper into the scriptures, the context, the history, the people.
I wanted to know who Jesus is and what makes Him so compelling.
I wanted to embark on a quest to discover what it truly is to become fully alive.
I wanted to step into what it means to be fully human.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"I wanted to go deeper into the scriptures, the context, the history, the people.
I wanted to know who Jesus is and what makes Him so compelling.
I wanted to embark on a quest to discover what it truly is to become fully alive.
I wanted to step into what it means to be fully human."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/quote","render":"

All of it is ultimately the question of identity and purpose.<\/p><\/blockquote>","content":"All of it is ultimately the question of identity and purpose.","quote_blocks":[],"data":{"fontSize":"normal"},"style":{"layout":"default","parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

With all the questions I\u2019ve asked and all the journey of discovery I\u2019ve been in, the question about deconstruction is fundamentally the question about our identity and purpose.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"With all the questions I\u2019ve asked and all the journey of discovery I\u2019ve been in, the question about deconstruction is fundamentally the question about our identity and purpose."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

It\u2019s the question that asks, \u201cWho am I at the core and why am I here\u2026without the filters, without the indoctrination, without the dogma\u2026.just pure and undiluted me.\u201d<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"It\u2019s the question that asks, \u201cWho am I at the core and why am I here\u2026without the filters, without the indoctrination, without the dogma\u2026.just pure and undiluted me.\u201d"}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

If the question about deconstruction is about purpose and identity, I\u2019ve learned the best place to find that answer is found in our history, not the rejection of it. It isn\u2019t about forgetting what happened to us but about embracing it and letting it shape who we are being now on the road to a better way of being.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"If the question about deconstruction is about purpose and identity, I\u2019ve learned the best place to find that answer is found in our history, not the rejection of it. It isn\u2019t about forgetting what happened to us but about embracing it and letting it shape who we are being now on the road to a better way of being."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

That\u2019s why after the exodus, there was an emphasis to not forget but to remember. To build memorial stones of what happened so when you look back in the rearview mirror of your life, you can celebrate your redemption.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"That\u2019s why after the exodus, there was an emphasis to not forget but to remember. To build memorial stones of what happened so when you look back in the rearview mirror of your life, you can celebrate your redemption."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

But you have to have hope. You have to have a promise. You have to have something that you are holding on to other than your pain.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"But you have to have hope. You have to have a promise. You have to have something that you are holding on to other than your pain."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

There has to be something bigger than who you are now that you can anchor yourself to. Something\u2026or Someone that can be a mirror to your becoming.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"There has to be something bigger than who you are now that you can anchor yourself to. Something\u2026or Someone that can be a mirror to your becoming."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/heading","render":"

The Redemptive Deconstruction Process<\/strong><\/h3>","content":"The Redemptive Deconstruction Process","data":[],"style":{"align":"left","parent_style":{},"header":"h3","fontSize":"21px"}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

If you\u2019re in the middle of deconstruction, I want to let you know that I see you. I recognize the pain you\u2019ve experienced and the hunger for solid food. Don\u2019t let this moment pass you by but use it to propel you forward. And instead of reacting to pain, lean in and find a promise. Let hope push you to redeem your history and reclaim your identity.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"If you\u2019re in the middle of deconstruction, I want to let you know that I see you. I recognize the pain you\u2019ve experienced and the hunger for solid food. Don\u2019t let this moment pass you by but use it to propel you forward. And instead of reacting to pain, lean in and find a promise. Let hope push you to redeem your history and reclaim your identity."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

So how do you deconstruct to reclaim identity rather than reject your history? Below is the process of what worked for me. I call it The Redemptive Deconstruction Process. If you have any questions about it or just need someone to process with, feel free to connect with me<\/a>.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"So how do you deconstruct to reclaim identity rather than reject your history? Below is the process of what worked for me. I call it The Redemptive Deconstruction Process. If you have any questions about it or just need someone to process with, feel free to connect with me<\/a>."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

1. Self-awareness<\/strong>. Know who you are, how you are wired. What are your fears and your triggers? Deconstruction must start with your personhood before it can continue with our belief system. It\u2019s important to differentiate identity from personality. The former is innate; the latter is formed.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"1. Self-awareness<\/strong>. Know who you are, how you are wired. What are your fears and your triggers? Deconstruction must start with your personhood before it can continue with our belief system. It\u2019s important to differentiate identity from personality. The former is innate; the latter is formed."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

2. Own your story.<\/strong> The past, the hurt, the trauma, the process \u2013 your pain will color the way you see. That\u2019s why self-awareness is the foundation. Pain can masquerade as the voice of your identity. You have to be able to differentiate who you are versus what you have come to believe. Only then can you discover who you are and who you are becoming. Pain has a voice but so does your identity.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"2. Own your story.<\/strong> The past, the hurt, the trauma, the process \u2013 your pain will color the way you see. That\u2019s why self-awareness is the foundation. Pain can masquerade as the voice of your identity. You have to be able to differentiate who you are versus what you have come to believe. Only then can you discover who you are and who you are becoming. Pain has a voice but so does your identity."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

3. Honor where you come from.<\/strong> You are where you are today because of the journey it took to get you here. The opposite of honor is shame. Shame disconnects you from your story and makes your past an enemy. Owning your history is where the redemption of your past and the restoration of your glory begins.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"3. Honor where you come from.<\/strong> You are where you are today because of the journey it took to get you here. The opposite of honor is shame. Shame disconnects you from your story and makes your past an enemy. Owning your history is where the redemption of your past and the restoration of your glory begins."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

4. Give grace to yourself so you can extend it to those around you.<\/strong> Forgiveness towards yourself and to those who might have led you astray is key. Leaders only lead from what they think they know. They have their own sets of lenses they are working from. It\u2019s hard to give them the benefit of the doubt, but it\u2019s essential to your healing.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"4. Give grace to yourself so you can extend it to those around you.<\/strong> Forgiveness towards yourself and to those who might have led you astray is key. Leaders only lead from what they think they know. They have their own sets of lenses they are working from. It\u2019s hard to give them the benefit of the doubt, but it\u2019s essential to your healing."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

5. Set healthy boundaries.<\/strong> In reality, the reason we go through a deconstruction phase in all areas of life is when we\u2019ve realized we\u2019ve been in a codependent relationship. This is especially true with the church, with our leaders, and so-called \u201cspiritual fathers.\u201d Because we didn\u2019t know how to release people into their own journey of faith, we have unconsciously cultivated a codependent relationship with our members. We didn\u2019t trust that they could, so we spoon-fed people. We would rather protect our doctrine than empower people into self-discovery. Another reason for this co-dependent relationship is because that is how we think God wants our relationship with Him. This is your faith journey and no one can live your spiritual life for you. So you have to own it.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"5. Set healthy boundaries.<\/strong> In reality, the reason we go through a deconstruction phase in all areas of life is when we\u2019ve realized we\u2019ve been in a codependent relationship. This is especially true with the church, with our leaders, and so-called \u201cspiritual fathers.\u201d Because we didn\u2019t know how to release people into their own journey of faith, we have unconsciously cultivated a codependent relationship with our members. We didn\u2019t trust that they could, so we spoon-fed people. We would rather protect our doctrine than empower people into self-discovery. Another reason for this co-dependent relationship is because that is how we think God wants our relationship with Him. This is your faith journey and no one can live your spiritual life for you. So you have to own it."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

6. There is permission to explore. <\/strong>When Paul said, \u201call things are yours,\u201d to the Corinthians it was in the context of following leaders. \u201cSo don\u2019t boast about following a particular human leader. For everything belongs to you\u2014 whether Paul or Apollos or Peter, or the world, or life and death, or the present and the future. Everything belongs to you, and you belong to Christ, and Christ belongs to God.\u201d That speaks of permission. You have way more permission than what you\u2019ve been told. But 7 chapters later he says, \u201cEverything is permissible but not everything is beneficial.\u201d With permission comes responsibility. He empowers them but then invites them to take responsibility for what they do. You have permission to explore but recognize what is actually beneficial and encourages your transformation.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"6. There is permission to explore. <\/strong>When Paul said, \u201call things are yours,\u201d to the Corinthians it was in the context of following leaders. \u201cSo don\u2019t boast about following a particular human leader. For everything belongs to you\u2014 whether Paul or Apollos or Peter, or the world, or life and death, or the present and the future. Everything belongs to you, and you belong to Christ, and Christ belongs to God.\u201d That speaks of permission. You have way more permission than what you\u2019ve been told. But 7 chapters later he says, \u201cEverything is permissible but not everything is beneficial.\u201d With permission comes responsibility. He empowers them but then invites them to take responsibility for what they do. You have permission to explore but recognize what is actually beneficial and encourages your transformation."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

7. Study and Learn.<\/strong> Once you have all the above then continue learning and dissecting and deconstructing your belief systems and faith traditions. Go back to the very beginning of why you believed in the first place. What drew you? What is driving you out? What are your questions? Learn why the scriptures were written, who it was written to, what the context is. Learn the different theological filters that might have been taught to you. Because you might just find how beautiful the scripture really is.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"7. Study and Learn.<\/strong> Once you have all the above then continue learning and dissecting and deconstructing your belief systems and faith traditions. Go back to the very beginning of why you believed in the first place. What drew you? What is driving you out? What are your questions? Learn why the scriptures were written, who it was written to, what the context is. Learn the different theological filters that might have been taught to you. Because you might just find how beautiful the scripture really is."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

8. Find a blueprint<\/strong>. There is a center in everything. Find something or someone to anchor yourself to or else you will always feel like you\u2019re lost. For me, Jesus is the one. After my own deconstruction, I found that there is no one else I would rather anchor myself to than his teaching and his life and the truth he came to embody. I see him as the blueprint of humanity we are all trying to aspire to. He is my self-actualization. When Paul said he\u2019s our mirror, it\u2019s an invitation for our being to be actualized into his image. He is my becoming. The question you have to answer for yourself is this: who are you becoming? That question will determine your anchor and center and the one who sits in the throne room of your heart.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"8. Find a blueprint<\/strong>. There is a center in everything. Find something or someone to anchor yourself to or else you will always feel like you\u2019re lost. For me, Jesus is the one. After my own deconstruction, I found that there is no one else I would rather anchor myself to than his teaching and his life and the truth he came to embody. I see him as the blueprint of humanity we are all trying to aspire to. He is my self-actualization. When Paul said he\u2019s our mirror, it\u2019s an invitation for our being to be actualized into his image. He is my becoming. The question you have to answer for yourself is this: who are you becoming? That question will determine your anchor and center and the one who sits in the throne room of your heart."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"

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